BDSM GLOSSARY – C

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Camming: Having “sex” via the Internet, with webcams allowing viewing of the action, either one way or both ways.

Cane: A thin rod used for striking. Commonly made of hardwood, bamboo, or acrylic.

Canning: A common misspelling of “caning” (see cane above).

Cat o' nine tails: Whip with nine tails or lashes.

Catheter: A specially designed tubular device, usually soft plastic, inserted through the urinary channel into the bladder in order to drain it. Used medically when a person is unable to relieve themselves normally, as in after injury or surgery, or during serious illness or unconsciousness. In BDSM, used in urethral play. Safety caution: The bladder in healthy people is a sterile environment. Inserting a non-sterile catheter, or using the catheter to inject fluids into the bladder, may cause serious infection!

CBT: see Cock and ball torture. Play or discipline usually involving the male genitals, also could involve women.

CDD: see Christian Domestic Discipline below.

Cell popping (see microbranding, body modification): A small metal poker is heated until glowing red and gently applied to the skin for one second. A design is formed by a series of dots made by the poker. This body mod is considered a temporary branding lasting anywhere from 2 weeks to 6 months, depending on application and individual healing factors.

Chastity: A form of erotic sexual denial or orgasm denial whereby a person is prevented from access to, or stimulation of, their genitals, save at the choice of their partner; sometimes by means of a device called a chastity belt (or for men a cock cage) that prevents stimulation or makes it painful. (Definition: cruel and unusual punishment!)

Chemical play: Using chemicals to produce sensations. Examples: wintergreen oil, Tabasco sauce, tiger balm, ginger, peppermint, rubbing alcohol, toothpaste, menthol, etc. Caution: should be tested on lesser sensitive tissues first!

Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD): (1) A Christian philosophy which permits husbands to spank their wives for disciplinary purposes. According to most CDD resources, it’s okay for both parties to enjoy and/or be aroused by the practice. (2) Sometimes used to label an entire relationship practice; see taken in hand (TIH); also “era” style relationships (1950s, ‘60s, etc.)

Cisgendered : The word has its origin in the Latin-derived prefix cis, meaning "to/this the near side". In short, a 'girly girl' or 'manly man'. Also used to referred to those who identify with their Birth Sex.

Clover clamp: A specific type of nipple clamp consisting of a clamp with a lever mechanism to which a chain or cord is affixed in such a way that pulling on the chain or cord increases pressure on the clamp.

CFNM : stands for "Clothed Female, Nude Male. " This can be done while role play happens or as a lifestyle choice. As long as it's all Consensual, plus Assent for the length of BDSM session happens. These sessions between consenting adults can happen from 1 hour to a week long session. Can also be a CFNM lifestyle.

Cock and ball torture (CBT): Play or discipline involving the male genitals. Note: the acronym of CBT can also stand for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Cock milking (see p-gasm, prostate massage): The practice of forcing a male to discharge semen through the penis through prostate massage without experiencing orgasm. Uses: (1.) In Domination/humiliation play, to arouse, frustrate, and/or humiliate a submissive by causing intense sensations and the involuntary “milking” of semen while denying orgasm; especially effective in the presence of witnesses. (2.) To enhance pleasure (for any male, not just submissives!) by giving an extremely pleasurable sensation, similar to that of orgasm, for an extended period of time. (See prostate massage for more detail and safety information.)

Cock ring : A device put around the penis to keep an erection.

Collar, Collared, Collaring capitalization note: It is a convention among some persons to capitalize the term “Collar” as a form of respect for the Ownership it symbolizes. That convention is used here, but it is by no means universally recognized.

Collar: Any symbol used to represent that a submissive or slave is Owned. Often an actual Collar, but can also be anything from a anklet to a bracelet to whatever the "couple" decides it to be. Shopping for a BDSM Collar, can be found here.

Collared: The state of a submissive or slave who is the consensual partner of a Master or Owner, usually in a long-term relationship. Sometimes referred to as Owned.

Collaring: 1. The formal acceptance by a Dominant of a submissive's service. 2. A ceremony celebrating such an event. May be a simple act of commitment between two people, or a formal ceremony similar to a wedding.

Consent

Consent: Mutual agreement to the terms of a scene or ongoing BDSM relationship.

CNC aka Consent Non-Consent: A mutual agreement that within defined limits, or subject to a safe word or other restrictions, and to common sense, consent to activities is given without foreknowledge of the exact actions planned. Very common (and pretty much necessary!) for activities such as kidnap or rape play, where prior discussion would destroy much of the “atmosphere”—like spoiling a surprise party. Examples: an agreement that anything rated “2” or higher in a submissive survey is “fair game” for play, without additional discussion or negotiation; or negotiation of kidnap play in advance, but without disclosing when, where, or the details of the scene.

Contract: A written agreement between the Dominant and submissive. Generally, it outlines the structure, guidelines, rules and boundaries of the relationship. It is not, nor is it intended to be, legally binding. Contracts may be used for various stages and timelines of the relationship; for example, there may be one for an online relationship; one covering only the first meeting or first few meetings; one covering a period of time (months or years) after which it may be renegotiated; or for a lifetime. Generally, a Contract cannot be amended; if change is desired, it must be rewritten. Often, there is a separate section for rules, protocols, etc. which can be amended; like the U. S. Constitution’s “Bill of Rights”. The signing of the Contract can be a ceremonial occasion; sometimes it is part of a Collaring ceremony.

Corporal punishment: Punishment involving pain, often more specifically impact punishment. Any activity involving discipline through physical means.

Corset: Clothing for shaping the body, usually into an hourglass shape. Used in the extreme it can cause breathing difficulty, and shift internal organs and bones.

Cosplay: Abbreviation for costume play

Costume play, Cos-play (see role play): Use of costumes by one or both parties in a scene to enhance the “atmosphere” of role play. Includes professions (police, doctor, etc), historical figures, superheros to name just a few possibilities.

Cracker: Attached to the end of a whip. Makes a loud cracking sound as the whip is snapped.

Crop: A thin, flexible instrument used for striking, consisting of a rigid but flexible shaft wrapped with leather or a similar material, with a handle at one end and often with a small leather loop at the other.

Cuckold (see cuckquean): Man whose wife has cheated on him. In the BDSM world, some may have a cuckold fetish in which the partners are aware of the “cheating”, and one or both partners derive pleasure from this knowledge. Often, the female is the Dominant in such a relationship, and enjoys having her regular partner watch while she “cheats” on him; he may or may not be allowed to participate.

Cuckquean: Female version of cuckold (above). In the fetish scenario, the cucquean might enjoy a scenario such as being forced to sit and watch quietly while her partner has sex; again, may or may not be allowed to participate.

Cupping: To use a suction device on body parts. Commonly glass cups which are done with suction or fire.

Cutting: The use of a sharp instrument with the intent of drawing blood.

Cybersex: (cyber) Performing or role-playing sexual acts over the internet. This can be done via text only, or using a web cam and/or microphone.


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